Are you a newlywed?
Did you just get engaged?
Are you and your partner looking to take your relationship to the next level?
When you’re considering marriage, often the first things you start to plan include your honeymoon or figuring out where you want to live. Pre-marital counseling might be last on your list, if it’s there at all. While it’s not an engagement topic that’s very fun or romantic, pre-marital counseling can set your marriage up to succeed and survive long-term, in spite of the odds.
Pre-marital counseling can help you and your significant other improve your relationship by helping you develop better communication skills, learn conflict management, uncover your shared core values as well as identify differences that could create future conflict. Research shows that pre-marital counseling significantly increases the success of marriages. Working with a therapist, you can discuss expectations with your partner that will help better prepare both of you for marriage.
So if these sound like you:
- You and your partner have arguments that don’t get resolved
- You feel like you’re always the one who has to compromise to keep the peace
- You’re concerned about how your partner’s financial situation will affect you as a married couple or how you will handle finances together
- You’re worried about losing affection or having a diminished sex life after marriage
- You want to find healthier ways to resolve conflict
- You want to resolve religious or financial differences
- You’re uncertain how you will handle each other’s extended family
- You want to better prepare for dealing with children and parenting
- You want to define your marital roles and expectations
… Then pre-marital counseling can be a great benefit to both you and your partner.
The intimate nature of marriage requires that you talk to your partner about everything, no matter how awkward or uncomfortable. Pre-marital counseling will help you learn how to be a better listener, and how to make your voice and needs heard in a productive and positive manner. Premarital counseling will empower you to recognize and communicate about your dreams and desires, beliefs and values, and your fears and needs, as well as other issues. This will give your marriage the stability, cohesiveness and trust necessary to last a lifetime.
Pre-marital counseling will also show you how to handle conflict in your marriage. When you live with someone, it is not a matter of if, but when you will have conflict. You will have arguments ranging from the very mundane to more serious issues. How you argue will be a part of the story of how you are as a couple. Learn how to de-escalate arguments and how to fight fairly, so you don’t cause emotional pain from things you said that you’ll never be able to take back.
In pre-marital counseling, we will likely bring up topics that you’ve discussed with your partner previously, as well as subjects you hadn’t considered before. This fresh perspective from an objective third party will uncover new details from your partner. This is also an excellent time for us to find unexpected areas where you disagree and give you the tools to handle possible future conflict.
Getting married is one of life’s most treasured experiences. Pre-marital counseling can help you and your partner turn that momentous occasion into a loving, lasting relationship. For guidance and support to strengthen your future marriage, please contact us today so we can schedule an appointment.